PRINCIPLES OF ADULT BEHAVIOR by John Perry Barlow
- Be patient. No matter what.
- Don’t badmouth: Assign responsibility, never blame.
Say nothing behind another’s back you’d be unwilling to say, in exactly the same tone and language, to his face.
- Never assume the motives of others are, to them, less noble than yours are to you.
- Expand your sense of the poesible.
- Don’t trouble yourself with matters you truly cannot change.
- Expect no more of anyone than you yourself can deliver.
- Tolerate ambiguity.
- Laugh at yourself frequently.
- Concern yourself with what is right rather than whom is right.
- Never forget that, no matter how certain, you might be wrong.
- Give up blood sports.
- Remember that your life belongs to others as well. Do not endanger it frivolously. Md never endanger the life of another.
- Never lie to anyone for any reason.
- Learn the needs of those around you and reepect them.
- Avoid the pursuit of happiness. Seek to define your mission and pursue that.
- Reduce your use of the first personal pronoun.
- Praise at least as often as you disparage.
- Never let your errors pass without admission.
- Become less suspicious of joy.
- Understand hmility.
- Foster dignity.
- Live memorably.
- Love yourself.
Here is some of wisdom tweeted by my favorite people:
- Stay on track. Don’t give your critics the ammunition they expect. – Larry Weidel
- Your ability to build & lead team to solve complex problems will define you as a leader, deal maker and innovator. – Tim Sanders
- Be stubborn about your goals, and flexible about your methods. – Vala Afshar
- Impatience only makes you look week. It is a principal impediment to power. – Robert Greene
- Learning is NOT NOT NOT a linear process!!!!!!! – Tom Peters
- Stop what you are doing and decide to do something of long term value! What can you do today, that will have an impact file years from now. – James Shepherd
Receiving feedback in the workplace isn’t always easy. Sometimes it can be hard to take constructive (or negative) feedback and turn it into a positive response. If you have received feedback that was not up to your expectations, the last thing you want to do is cause an emotional outburst. Here are some top tips on how you can control yourself with negative feedback, avoid confrontation and utilize feedback to become a better employee.
- Let your boss express his or her ideas fully: always be sure to let your boss finish what she/he is saying and do your best to understand what is being said. Paraphrasing exactly what you are being told and making sure to let the other person finish is very important. This way you can demonstrate that you’ve heard their opinion and that they had full opportunity to express their opinion.
- Always evaluate feedback: Looking for particular reasons for a particular feedback you got is important. Be sure to look at the situation and examine some of the underlying aspects. If your boss has expressed feedback in an emotional outburst, for example, you may want to consider some of the other factors like he/she being under overwhelming pressure from management or poor conditions at home.
- Keep yourself in check: Responding to feedback with a negative response can put your job growth prospects in danger. Be sure to keep yourself in check with your nonverbal responses and with the emotion in your voice.
- Work to alter behavior: the only way that you can use negative feedback is to work at altering your behavior. Use feedback to find workplace goals and then avoid certain behaviors to become a more effective employee.
- Don’t be afraid to ask for clarification: If you are unsure of the specifics of negative feedback be sure to ask a number of clarifying questions on how you can improve or specific actions that you are doing that could be causing inefficiency. A good boss will be able to identify a number of alternatives to your behavior or to your workplace practices.
Use these top tips when receiving feedback from your boss so that you can use it to the fullest extent.
Reading a magazine’s very last page and very last item sounded very familiar to me in a different context. It quoted Emma-Jayne Winson, the first female jockey to win the Queen’s Plate, Canada’s oldest thoroghbred race, in 2007. Here it is from May 2015 issue of Canadian Business.
Ask a jockey: Is it hard to build a relationship with a horse you’ve just met?
“When I took lessons, I remember complaining that I wanted to ride this horse every week, and I never got the same horse. I always got a differet one. But being on horses that maybe I didn’t get along with taught me to be a better rider and to communicate better with animals that weren’t necessarily on the same page. It’s amazing how you can assimilate something so simple into everyday life.”
Now relate this story to the times when you wanted certain key people in your team, but couldn’t; or had to operate with constraints that you felt were slowing you down. I believe every challenge shapes us to be bit more flexible, innovative, disciplined, collaborative and resilient.
One mantra helps instead of complaining or whining, it is change the mindset. Accept that it is not an ideal situation (rarely ideal conditions exist in any environment, be it business or social), but how can you make the best use of it and what way you are going to learn from it. Usually, all such circumstances become good stepping stones.
Don’t get stuck on design without looking into user experience
Don’t start refinement too early or else you may miss out best solution
How random data can be interpreted depends upon experience and creativity
Always remember, keep is succinct as much as possible
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It all comes down to the decisions a leader makes. I believe following 5 quotes will inspire you as well.
- Nothing is particularly hard if you divide it into small jobs. – Henry Ford
- By failing to prepare, you are preparing to fail. – Ben Franklin
- Diversity in counsel, unity in command. – Cyrus the Great
- Chance favors the prepared mind. – Louis Pasteur
- Deliberate often. Decide once. – Latin proverb
This is ONE of the excellent posts of 2014. It has lots of good actionable info. Read it and apply it.